My Secret to Happiness


Count the garden by the flowers,

never by the leaves that fall.

Count your life with smiles,

and not the tears that roll.

It seems like lately I am on a path to self discovery and really figuring out who I am as an individual, a photographer and a designer. This past month I have been working hard on updating my photography and design website and defining my weaknesses and strengths in my business as well as a wife and mother.

A lot of my self growth and refocusing is stemmed from the past year I have had. My marriage has gone through a lot of ups and downs and we are working hard at refocusing and rededicating ourselves to each other. I have had to really focus on what my family and husband need from me and have had to take a hard look at who I think I am and who I really am.

I am so grateful for all of my faithful clients and customers who are always there for me, who welcome me into their homes and their lives and allow me, even just for a little bit, to be a part of their family. I am often very critical of my work and my faults and am always looking for what can be improved next time, how can I make it even better than before.

I am a perfectionist by nature. It is not something I can turn off or ignore. It isn’t even something I am ashamed of. I think we all are trying to find some level of perfection in our lives.

Often times as I have reached out to others with my thoughts and feelings with the understanding that I am a perfectionist I hear the response, “you have got to let that go, no one is perfect.” or “Cut yourself (and others) some slack.” or the ever popular one, “you have to learn to love yourself exactly as you are because you are doing the best you can.”

The ironic thing is that I do love myself! I fully accept that I am doing the best I can at being the best I can! But does that mean I have to stop trying to be better? Does being self – aware and critical automatically mean I have low self-esteem? I don’t think so! It simply means I am always trying to be my best self and never get complacent in life.

I am a happy, confident woman and I love myself completely for who I am because of this one thing:

I choose to focus on all the good and happy things in my life! While I am aware of things that need to be improved I don’t dwell on them and allow them to consume me. I choose to celebrate everyday what I did right that day!  Which is why I love the quote above so much, I really believe that is the secret to living a happy life – we have to count the smiles and not the tears!

If you are struggling with finding happiness in your life I want to encourage you to take a minute and think of all the happy moments in your life and things that bring a smile to a face – focus on those – grasp onto those and you will find that while it doesn’t take the pain and turmoil away from your life, it brings a sense of peace and happiness.

The flowers in the picture above were given to me by my husband as an apology when he was focusing more on what was lacking than what was abundant in our marriage. I felt that the quote fit the meaning of the flowers perfectly!

I hope you have a wonderful Wednesday and that my message today inspires you in some way for the better!

I am Linking up with Texture Tuesday 

image edited with Cotton and Culligan script textures by KimKlassen


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